I am not writing this blog about gratitude and thanks because it happens to be Thanksgiving week…
Well, yes I am.
But! I must add here that this topic is one that I hold as one of THE MOST IMPORTANT all year long.
In my opinion, there are only a few things in life that you cannot do too much of – saying thank you and giving thanks/feeling gratitude cannot be overdone. Here is why I feel this way:
The simplicity of the words and sentiment of ‘thank you’ goes a long way. Writer and theologian, Carl Buechner said it best, “They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” I think that says it all. How many of us remember the feeling we had when someone thanked us or extended a gesture of gratitude in our direction?
Sometimes, it makes us a little uncomfortable too. We don’t want to seem vain or self- absorbed by appearing to enjoy the expression of gratitude too much. Yet, I think we short change ourselves and others when we deflect it by saying things like, “Oh, it was nothing.” Or we say “you’re welcome” while waving a hand as if we are brushing it away. I want to tell you STOP IT…STOP IT NOW!
There is nothing richer in our world of human connection than the exchange of sincere gratitude and the graciousness that comes along with it. It always amazes me how those two simple words and the feelings that come with it can spread so much positive energy and along with it, great results. Not only do we feel good when we give thanks and express appreciation to others, we are also acknowledging the impact of their efforts. Whether we or they will admit it (or not), it matters to us to know that our actions have made a difference. When we have that knowledge and understanding of the impact we make, it builds better relationships and allows us to be more effective in so many situations.
Remember to say thank you and say it often.
Remember to wholeheartedly receive and accept others’ gratitude towards you.
Remind yourself what you are grateful for daily. No matter how small it may seem, an attitude of gratitude goes a long, long way.
No kidding — all of this applies equally to your personal and professional life – there is nothing more important!
Happy Thanksgiving to you all!